The nature of life is change, no matter what. How you feel today — no matter how boring, stifling, angering, or depressing it may be — will be different tomorrow. Your feelings will look different in a day, a week, a month, and a year, so look to the future with optimism. That’s just the nature of existence – there are ups and downs on the rollercoaster.

• But the result of that work is miraculous.
• It means continually checking in with yourself, continually reaching out to new people who may have ideas you haven’t tried before, and continually asking questions that will help you improve your life.
• And another thing about sobriety…who would want to know what his spouse thinks of him?
• Don’t be afraid to ask for help and let people know that you’re having a hard time.
• While getting and staying sober was the best decision I’ve ever made, in a lot of ways it’s also been the most challenging.
• And absolutely, sobriety is a lot of work.

Choose A New Healthy Habit

I ignored her frustration with me, and rather, focussed on all the things that made me frustrated about her. Now, I consider her physical and emotional wellbeing before suggesting physical contact. What a waste of my perfectly good perpetual horniness. Now that I don’t drink, I’ve been stripped of my alcohol-induced intelligence and infallibility. That’s why I talked so loud and repeated myself so often. I had a lot to say, and I was proud to bestow on everyone within earshot my slobbery wit and careless observations.

FAQs about Sobriety Sucks:

I mean, now I have to be considerate and show at least a minimum level of compassion to foster a thriving relationship. Alcohol made my marriage so much easier. I just told my wife what to think and when to think it.

• Instead of isolating and giving into feeling bad, reach out and connect with others who might be going through the same thing.
• I just told my wife what to think and when to think it.
• Sobriety is not all roses and reggae, after all, and those who are in a position to help, will always stress the indisputable fact that being clear-headed is better than being a drunk.
• Everyone faces difficult situations, ranging from getting a rough night’s sleep to dealing with a death in the family or an unexpected divorce.

Staying Sober When Life Sucks

Reach out to a loved one when you’re feeling down. It means continually checking in with yourself, continually reaching out to new people who may have ideas you haven’t tried before, and continually asking Substance abuse questions that will help you improve your life. Just because it “seems” like things will never change, that is not actually the case.

Even though breakups, job losses, and an unexpected death of a friend or family member, can be devastating, they will all happen at some point. And you need to know that you can make it through without relapsing. Even if you are making one small choice to improve how you feel each day, like working out more or eating better, track it. You can then consistently look back, see how far you’ve come, and assess what you have accomplished along the way.

The Downside of Sobriety: The 6 Things No One Tells You Might Happen If You Quit Drinking

I stop drinking my intelligence potion, work on myself for a few years, and whammo! Just like that, my ears are more than just sunglasses holders. Nobody told me this side effect of long-term sobriety. You will have days when you don’t necessarily make the strongest choices to improve your well-being or strengthen your recovery. No matter what happened yesterday or even five minutes ago, you can choose to be patient with yourself, reassess, and pivot as needed.

• No matter what happened yesterday or even five minutes ago, you can choose to be patient with yourself, reassess, and pivot as needed.
• I ignored her frustration with me, and rather, focussed on all the things that made me frustrated about her.
• And I’m also the one who doesn’t wake up with a hangover.

Grift People Grift People

Spend time focused on someone other than yourself and your own situation won’t seem so bad. Who needs to have a clear, coherent, chronological catalog of the events of all of his waking hours? Sometimes it feels as though I might forever know what I’ve said and what I’ve done leaving no embarrassment, shameful investigation, cautious reading of my wife’s mood, or hiding from people for weeks at a time. Questions remain for the exploring, delightful conversations give me a little tinge of joy for days, and polite interactions leave me without doubt or fear of pending catastrophe. It’s as though, in permanent sobriety, I am doomed to walk the earth with the kind of intact memory of someone fully engaged in the human experience. Alcohol certainly freed me from all of this connecting and remembering bullshit.

But now, I get to be the person who makes sure they get home safe from the bar. And I’m also the one who doesn’t wake up with a hangover. Yes, I no longer have the option of using a substance to escape my feelings or problems. But because of that, I have learned to actually DEAL with them instead. Yes, asking for help was already listed, but it is so important that it is worth repeating. Getting through recovery’s ups and downs requires you to do more than just occasionally show up and interact with people who may be able to support you.

You can choose to sit where you are for a moment, assess, and figure out a way forward. Join Recovery Connection Substance abuse in celebrating your recovery with our sobriety calculator. I share my experience because I do not want others to be blindsided like I was. Sobriety is not all roses and reggae, after all, and those who are in a position to help, will always stress the indisputable fact that being clear-headed is better than being a drunk.

The Sober Library

Sign in or sign up to follow shows, save episodes and get the latest updates. Sign in or sign up to follow shows, save episodes, and get the latest updates. So you lost your job and it wasn’t your fault. But complaining about it not being fair, and focusing on the injustice of it all will just make you feel down and make you more likely to fall deeper into the “poor me” trap.